u/Fun-Honeydew548 — reddlx

So basically first day of like 5th grade I became bestfriends with this girl. I was nerdy and innocent she was all over all the boys, sending nudes to guys, etc. but we were still bestfriends. I moved later that year and we still remained bestfriends. I would spend weeks at her house and been summers with the occasional going home to take care of my pets and get clothes. Her dad has always liked my mom and wanted her to leave her husband and always considered me a daughter. He was abusive to my friend which is why I was always there. I recorded for cps and he usually wasent as bad when I was around. As we grew into highschoolers it turned into sneaking out, going out and hanging out with boys without her dad knowing, pregnancy scares and buying her tests, etc. long story short she was very fake to me, everytime I’d leave her house our entire friendship she would ghost me until she wanted me to come over again, especially with other people and boys were involved. I posted a tik tok basically asking what was wrong with me because my bsf of 5+ years randomly ghosted me but never said a name or any identifying details. A year ago maybe her dad texted me that she was talking abt me and he wanted to pick me up and suprise her (mind u her friends told me he would touch me legs and was always calling me princess and stuff when I was sleeping and over there, it felt weird to go with him without her knowing) and she had been ghosting me for her bf so I told him the truth, he lied and said that wasent true and that I was ghosting her and being mean to her and cussing her out etc etc, I sent him proof, and he couldn’t accept it. He texted me on thanksgiving and my birthday but I dident respond. She would stalk my accounts but not message me so I eventually told her if she was gonna stalk my account than to atleast like my posts. She blocked me without saying a thing and we haven’t spoke since.

March 13th 2026 a tree fell on our house and we were homeless staying in a motel with 2 dogs and our couple cats, one of which had his leg crushed and amputated. I was almost killed while I was sleeping, if my sister was in her bed it would’ve landed directly ontop of her, her dad saw it on Facebook.

Yesterday he texted me that his mom/her grandma had passed away. No other info. Just that she passed Way. I don’t mean to be selfish but I was homeless and neither of them reached out to me, infact she lied to her dad about me several times after I spent so much money and years on being her friend, sneaking out, doing things I wasent comfortable with, buying pregnancy tests, and all she could do for me was lie to her dad. I just reacted to it with a thumbs up. I liked her grandma but I haven’t spoke to this girl in 2? Years maybe. I used to cry when I thought abt not graduating with her anymore because I moved, and now she’s clearly made her own life for herself and I let it be. And her dad reaches out every couple months to remind me of what I once had. I cherished that friendship and loved her so much and she treated me like crap in return.

Do I do anything?

What is ur opinions?

I have attached the last couple texts from him.

I told him that I am constantly being blocked by her, that he’s texting me with his daughter’s problems instead of her reaching out to me herself. And that I felt like I was being attacked because he was sitting there saying that I play mind games, and that I’m not a healthy person for her to be friends with essentially. Because I blocked his daughter years ago for being rude to me and we became friends again. The cussing thing, I told her that her dad was pissing me off and that she needed to text him because he’s repeatedly been lying to me to get me to go over there and that I’m perfectly fine with not being friends anymore but she needs to talk to her dad because clearly he’s not getting the memo.

This man is such a manipulator and a narcissist and has been for as long as I’ve known them, but I find it weird he’s still texting me and my mom but his daughter can’t even reach out to me. And I find it weird messaging me after all this abt her grandma as if I’m still going to her house with his daughter every so often. I clearly told him it wasent in the cards for us and that I needed him to stop messaging me because I’m not going alone with him to APPARENTLY see a girl that dosent even want to talk to me. I’m considering messaging her idek if she’s changed her number or not but honestly it’s ridiculous at this point. Not even just me, he’s constantly texting my mom and liking our Facebook posts too.

So some back story. My brother is now 21. I’m 17. He dosent drive and lives with us and dosent work. When I was a little younger maybe 15 we would play fight and he would grab my boobs or stomach or if I was leaving the living room he would block me by grabbing my stomach and just being weird. My dad saw it and told me to tell him to stop touching me there. My stepdad is also weird. When I was little he slapped me and he’s always babied my little sister. We get in these fights where we’re just screaming and cussing at each other. My sister hates him even tho he babys her. Calls her “(her name) squirt” and all these other pet/nick names. She was convinced at our old house he had a camera in the bathroom light. And convinced a hole in the bathroom wall was a peep hole for my brother. She is very uncomfortable by my stepdad but won’t say if he’s done anything to her that would cause it. He’s also cheated on my mom with his ex and has been caught looking up “girls in bikinis” by her and my mom and I’ve seen him looking on tik tok for best 🌽⭐️ actors.

We moved recently and we still only have one bathroom. Eveytime I go to the bathroom or to take a shower or bath one of them mostly my brother paces back and fourth. Last night I decided to take a bath and my brother was pacing back and fourth, I got out and he was standing in the dark laundry room(kitchen is next to the bathroom and that branches to the laundry room) and I went to walk into the kitchen and he blocked me and wouldent let me go through. Its a very uncomfortable situation to be in when he’s touched my boobs and stuff before because he’s a lot bigger than me, being in a situation where I can’t move or feel trapped by a man is scary. Even with my stepdad if I go in the bathroom he sits at the dining room table infront of the door and just stares at me when I come out.

I even caught my stepdad going in my room when I wasent home (things were moved and missing he was the only one there) which I thought was weird. Im a teenage girl. I now have a lock on my new room with keys.

He also trys to control how much I eat. We went to the mall to get my sis a prom dress recently and I ate a cookie cuz I hasent eaten all day and they planned to pick up dinner after. He basically said I dident need food because I already ate. And he feeds me tiny portions for dinner and 99% of the time my food is undercooked.

Ik that dosent tie into the being uncomfortable part much but he just treats me so differently. Like I said my sister gets babied but I’m constantly fighting with him even if I just tell him to clean up after himself cuz he’s constantly leaving the house disgusting he’ll start cussing at me. Also i can’t prove this is one of them but I’ve had underwear and clothes go missing a lot and it’s not my sister. Its a bit concerning cuz I’ve found my glasses behind my brothers bed, and even my blankets in his room.

What would you do in my situation. They’ve basically been refusing to help me get my license so I haven’t been able to work to save up and move out. I can’t go to college and live in a dorm because I have a dog I’d have to find somewhere for us to live. I just don’t like being alone with them they creep me out and disgust me, me and my mom are the only ones who do anything in the house even if it’s heavy lifting and they whine when they have to help and refuse to. I hate living with that honestly..