u/FrothyC

So guys I know it is a controversial take but I gotta say it. I think a person has to be entirely honest with their partner before marriage regarding their previous relationships. It is much better to tell someone beforehand so that they can decide whether to stay or leave rather than the other partner coming to know about it after 2-3 yrs of marriage and then things going south.

It is a common tendency in today's society of covering things up when you've had your fun and then finally deciding to settle down.

It is quite unfair to someone who has stayed pure their entire life and somehow gets such ran through people in marriage.

I don't believe that physical relationships and adultery is a mistake. You just don't happen to fall in someone's bed naked. You are an adult or teen with a mind fully capable of differentiating between right and wrong. If you have committed adultery then you should own up to it and tell your future partner beforehand. There is no purpose of hiding behind religion at that time, you have committed something wrong now face the consequences.

I know for a fact that this is my red line and if god forbid I get someone like this in marriage and they don't tell me beforehand about their previous little adventures then I am definitely going ballistic no matter what the level of proximity is between us.

P.S: Why tf are you people making it a gender war. I didn't mention any specific gender. It works both ways. Neither did I say ky zina karo ya na karo. I just said ky kr rahe ho tou agly sy jhoot na bolo

I don't know why but all of my friendships seem forced and one sided to me. It is always me putting all the effort into my friendships. It's like if I don't keep in contact they literally do not care. It is me who always plans meetups, makes calls and so that we keep in touch. But honestly I am getting tired of it, my efforts never get reciprocated and I am always the second or third option for literally all of my friends.

It feels like I am begging people to be friends with me. I have close friends who would plan the exact same outings, trips and other stuff with other people which I literally plead with them to plan with me.

The issue is that even if I assume that these weren't the right people for me then the thing which bothers me is that have I failed to find a single good friend in my entire life??

I look at people having friends who would kill and die for them and wonder why did I fail in this dept so badly even though I tried to be always there for every single one of my friends.

I don't know why but all of my friendships seem forced and one sided to me. It is always me putting all the effort into my friendships. It's like if I don't keep in contact they literally do not care. It is me who always plans meetups, makes calls and so that we keep in touch. But honestly I am getting tired of it, my efforts never get reciprocated and I am always the second or third option for literally all of my friends.

It feels like I am begging people to be friends with me. I have close friends who would plan the exact same outings, trips and other stuff with other people which I literally plead with them to plan with me.

The issue is that even if I assume that these weren't the right people for me then the thing which bothers me is that have I failed to find a single good friend in my entire life??

I look at people having friends who would kill and die for them and wonder why did I fail in this dept so badly even though I tried to be always there for every single one of my friends.

So guys it is kind of a rant. I am very possessive in my friendships, like in an extreme way. I am a social and outspoken guy and have friends everywhere, but I have a list of close friends in my mind. The issue is that I get jealous when any of my close friends are hanging out with other people.

An example is that I have a good friend whom I have known for 3 yrs(he is on the close friends list) and he has been my roommate for one year. We live in a hostel and currently we changed rooms(I was the one who changed it). But now I am jealous that why he is going out with his other friends and why he does not include me in every plan. He tries to be nice with me but I feel hurt.

I don't know why I act like this, I have imaginary expectations from people and get hurt when they don't come up to them which they never knew about. I invest a lot in friendships and want the same efforts in return. And people don't reciprocate my efforts at the level I want them to. Maybe I am an emotional burden on people around me😭

Why are Pakistanis a self loathing nation? I have never seen others hate Pakistan the way Pakis do it themselves. I am currently in a setup with a lot of students from other countries and they point it out to me all the time in the form of woke reels and posts made by some "intellectual" Pakis.

If Pak is at war with Afghanis they will become Afghan sympathisers, if Pak is at war with Iran, they will be staunch Iranians. Why would they just not support the very country they live in???