I am a 20yr old F finishing up my junior year of college at Bama and secured an internship this summer in Nashville, TN. I turn 21 in June. My boyfriend who is 23, lives full time in Nashville, TN working a remote job he loves. I am from FL and he is from NH and we both met at college. He graduated last year and we have been long distance ever since. We both know each other's families really well and visit each other frequently. By June, we will have been together for a year and a half.
The main reason I accepted this job offer, was so we could end long distance this summer and be in the same city. This job opportunity offers a $1500 monthly housing stipend on top of hourly and commission. The job would only go from May to August and then I would return back to school for my senior year of college. My mother is persistent on me getting my own apartment and not moving in with him. He would only make me give him a few hundred dollars for rent and then we'd split groceries. We would both be saving a lot of money. Also, I don't have a car. He would be my transportation to work. My mother hasn't given me a solid reason as to why she doesn't want me living with him, but when we went to college together, we were practically living in the same apartment. She just keeps saying "I don't want you to".
My mother and I are really close, and I don't want to disobey her. She won't be paying any of my bills or helping me out in Nashville, so I don't see a reason as to why I really have to listen to her. I am on scholarship at my university and I don't ask for money. even if I don't live with him this summer, I will be living with him after I graduate. I feel like living with him this summer would also be a great test run as he may propose next spring.
Overall, I'm generally just scared to bring this up to her. I know that me listening to her and keeping her happy would just complicate this journey of me getting a job elsewhere and would make it more expensive. How do I go about bringing this up/telling my old school Cuban mother that I'm doing what I want to do.