hello, i (25f) adopted my dog when i was 21 and lived alone. he is a rescue from the south korea meat trade, i rescued him when he was 4.5years old and he’s had to learn everything a normal dog does like toilet training, playing, and learning that not everything out there is going to hurt him.
it’s been a really long frustrating road at times but i’m so grateful he is the way he is.
he’s such a lovely playful caring dog when he’s around me , his recall is amazing , i can have him off lead without worrying.
my partner moved in with us about 10 months ago , and Toby (dog) is still uneasy around him.
when i’m around he’s very playful with my bf , he asks for fusses, he listens to him when he asks him to sit or go to his crate. but when i’m not there all of that progress goes out the window.
i’ve been away for a few weekends over the last year and every time i do Toby will sit in an opposite side of the house to my bf and avoids him like the plague. this really confuses me because they do get along really well when im there, i just don’t know if there’s something that me and my partner could be doing to make Toby feel more comfortable.
to me i think it’s a mix of separation anxiety and anxiety around men (which is a big issue for toby anyway)
if anyone could give me any advice it would be greatly appreciated.