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Title: I Stopped Talking to Jake Webber

(Now hear me out.)

Speaking as someone who cares, even if it comes off harsh, this is how I see it.

At the core, it’s the environment. The addictions, the circles, the fast money… it all pulls you into a lifestyle built on numbing out instead of actually living. It’s quick highs and people who stay for clout more than connection. From the outside, that’s always been the perception of LA, being inside it has to be even harder.

And there’s more going on than what’s shown. The David situation, what’s kept behind closed doors, it all adds up.

What I genuinely hope is that she chooses something different. She doesn’t want to be numb. She’s emotional, empathetic, someone who feels deeply. She needs people around her who align with the life she actually wants. From the outside, it looks like she wants clarity, stability, and a more grounded, safe version of herself.

But the reality? Posting with Jake works. It gets views. It pays. So does playing into an identity that may not even feel aligned anymore. And if that’s the case, it might be time to stop forcing it just for money.

Because 26 is one of those ages where everything splits, some people are building families, some are thriving in careers, some are lost, some are struggling. Some get so consumed by social media they stop looking inward. There isn’t one right path, but there is a choice in direction.

A relationship isn’t going to save you. We’ve already seen that.

Right now, it feels like the content with Jake and Tara is being treated like the only thing that performs. But if you have to stay in something unhealthy just to keep momentum, that’s a problem. At some point, you have to choose growth over attention, even if it costs you short term.

And honestly, why not step back and observe? Let people have their opinions for a second. Whether it’s right or wrong, it’s still feedback. It’s still data. You can learn from it, grow from it, and move accordingly.

The image being put out right now doesn’t reflect growth. And at this stage, it’s fair to ask what kind of life and identity you actually want to stand on.

You can love someone and still create distance. Especially when boundaries get crossed, like dating someone you were once close to, and then having that dynamic constantly amplified by an audience.

Addiction doesn’t stay contained. It bleeds into everything, relationships, families, futures. No one is immune to that.

Even small things, like not sticking to a resolution to quit vaping, can point to deeper patterns.

And the truth is, these patterns don’t usually fix themselves. They escalate.

You can still care about someone. You can still be friends. But constant proximity, especially in an environment like that, can keep you stuck in a cycle longer than you realize.

At some point, clarity has to come from distance.

And honestly, I think people would respect her more if they saw that distance, if they saw her choosing herself. People can feel when you respect yourself… and when you don’t.

I truly wish the best for everyone involved. But sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself and your future is wake up and choose differently.

Edit… Also, I don’t know if Tara is struggling personally with any addictions but if she is, I hope she knows there are was to get help. You just have to choose yourself first

Just a little insight on myself I’m 26 too and I have not been able to get out of circles with insane illegal drug addictions. in a different state. Even though I’ve never touched it I’ve seen people in body bags over it. I still struggled with alcohol and vaping and I really had to take steps to stay away from that but the substance is put around people that don’t make good choices.

I’ve seen it ruin people I cared about so deeply. And guess what ? They would choose it over me in a heartbeat.

Every single friend group I’ve entered since highschool/college age (18) has a substance abuse problem and we’re not filming it.

I’ve been able to get myself away from being around that shit, but it came down to me, not wanting to be around that anymore. It broke me. I had to choose me. I can’t imagine what they’re going through. And If some random ass girl from a random ass small town, that doesn’t post herself on social media is going through it , it’s probably happening here too. Anyway, sorry I didn’t label this rant.lol