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We have been sleep training my 5.5month for almost two weeks now. We were seeing progress but then kinda got stuck after about 10 days, she would still cry for a good 5-10 mins every night and then would wake up every night at 11:30 pm and would take 1h of crying to resettle (which was a step backwards as she was previously resettling on her own in 10mins).

I posted here and someone suggested she was under tired and I needed to stretch her ww and cap naps at 3h. So I tried this for the last 3 days and it has been an absolute disaster. She has been crying 20-30mins at bedtime before falling asleep, still wakes up at 11:30pm and struggle to resettle and now she won’t sleep more than 2hrs stretch after that wake up and this morning was up at 5:30 am….

Current schedule is 2.25/2.5/2.5/2.75. Naps cap at 3h

Baby girl is 5.5 month. She was never a great sleeper but would sleep in her bassinet at night and have an average of 3 wake up per night.

We then travelled to Australia for 3 weeks when she was 4 months and her schedule was all over the place and we got to a point where she would not sleep unless she was touching me at all time. We do not have the set up to co sleep safely so decided to sleep train. We started on May 1st. She is EBF and we’re gonna do Ferber but she did not respond well to check ins so we switched to full extinction. For MOTNW we chose to follow 5/3/3

Night 1: she cried for 40mins and fell asleep. Woke up at midnight cried for 10 mins and settled back to sleep. Woke up again at 1am and I fed her, put her back in crib awake and she fell back asleep without fussing, same again at 4am.

Night 2: she cried for 1h (and was hysterical). MOTNW were similar to night 1

Night 3: 20mins crying. Only 1 MOTNW at 3:30 am.

I felt we were heading in the right direction but…

Night 4: 10mins rolling around in her crib, 1min crying. MOTNW similar to night 1 & 2

Night 5, 6, 7 & 8: 5mins crying before falling asleep but MOTNW between 11pm and midnight and will not settle back without a feed (let her cry for 1 hour on night 5 and 6.) And then every 3hrs. She resettles without fussing after feed.

She goes to bed between 8 and 8:30 and wakes up between 6:30 and 7am. Haven’t sleep trained for naps yet and they are all contact naps or carrier naps. She has never been a great napper and gets about 3h15 of sleep over 4 naps. She gets overtired by the end of the day and usually last wake window is under 2hrs. That’s what I thought I was doing wrong so today I tried to stick to a 3 nap schedule (2/2.25/2.5/2.75) and attempted an earlier bedtime and it was a disaster. She only got 2h30 of daytime sleep. Attempted bedtime at 7:20pm and she cried hysterically for 30minutes. Too soon to tell how the night is going to go but it’s not boding well.

Bedtime routine is boob, bath, PJ and sleep sack, story, cuddles while listening to a relaxing song before I put her in her bed awake.

I’m stuck, I don’t know how move forward and support her getting to a place where she can fall asleep without crying it out and reduce her MOTNW.

Any advice?