How do you people have fun, cool fun?
Hi, I am navigating early 20s
I always thought making good sleep- health habits, working out, probably a hobby, having few close friends that respect you, studying and leading a normal happy satisfied life was a good goal to have.
But somethings have happened which have shaken my belief system.
I have never been a part of THE IT CIRCLE of school or college. Never been with the party/ fun/ clubbing/ nightout people. I have got a very normal group of friends, we eat out/ have fun occasionally. Basically, I have lived a laid back homely life.
But apparently the life I'm leading is boring and don't have an appeal. It's not attractive and glitters. It's not trendy, not cool enough.
So, help me:
If you're good with fashion, tell me how to develop a sense of fashion.
If you're a traveler, tell me how you plan and research your trips. What fun do you have?
Does going to arcade or movies constitutes to having fun?
I'm not super rich nor have super rich friends so roaming in a g wagon or defender etc have never been my life.
Still give me playlists for car drives with boys, playlist for car drives with females, playlist for gym etc
Does knowing all the cafes and good spots in your town makes you cool? Does drinking smoking makes you cool? Always trying out new things makes you cool?
Does it require a mindset change to force you out of your house, become super extrovert, get into anything new, meet people? How to meet people?
How do you take out time to be cool? Is it by reducing your screen time? Or do you watch cool vloggers/ influencers to be inspired?
How do you know cool things are happening around you without using instagram?
Surely dancing makes you cool? How to start learning, just enough that you can groove/ move gracefully in social settings?
What's the cheat code of your confidence?
Write all the things that you consider cool.
Tldr: A homebody trying to be cool needs your actionable help.