u/ForceIll573

I 29F, I been dating my boyfriend for 4 years, mostly long distance. We met in Canada and I genuinely believe he’s the person I’m meant to be with. I plan to move back to Canada and build a life with him.

I always believed my mom would be on my side. But when this came up, I saw a completely different version of her. She’s been mentally very abusive towards me. She blocked me on WhatsApp, didn’t speak to me for almost 6 months, cropped me out of photos, and basically made me not exist in her life until very recently. I also struggled a lot mentally during this time and had thoughts of ending my life multiple times over the past few months, especially until the end of 2025. She’s only recently started speaking to me again. The issue is mainly caste.

His family, on the other hand, has been incredibly patient and supportive throughout all of this.

On my side, nothing has really changed. My dad tries, but my mom is completely non-receptive. Talking to her feels like hitting a wall.

One important thing: eloping or going against my family and getting married without them is NOT an option. My dad really wants both parents and my siblings present at the wedding and I want that too.

I feel stuck between my family and the person I love. I know what I want, but I don’t know how to get there without everything blowing up again.

Any literally any guidance will be appreciated. I once went down the rabit hole and promised myself not to because people kept telling me I do have marriage in my chart, and that too intercaste. But pls help me navigate through this. And when can I expect resolution. I will be highly grateful.

TLDR: 4 year relationship, want to marry him. Mom reacted very harshly (cut me off for 6 months) due to caste issues. I struggled mentally during this period. Dad tries but she won’t budge. Can’t elope, want family present. Feeling stuck and looking for advice.

MD- Jupiter
AD-Rahu
22.10.96
Dehradun
12:10Pm

I 29F, I been dating my boyfriend for 4 years, mostly long distance. We met in Canada and I genuinely believe he’s the person I’m meant to be with. I plan to move back to Canada and build a life with him.

I always believed my mom would be on my side. But when this came up, I saw a completely different version of her. She’s been mentally very abusive towards me. She blocked me on WhatsApp, didn’t speak to me for almost 6 months, cropped me out of photos, and basically made me not exist in her life until very recently. I also struggled a lot mentally during this time and had thoughts of ending my life multiple times over the past few months, especially until the end of 2025. She’s only recently started speaking to me again. The issue is mainly caste.

His family, on the other hand, has been incredibly patient and supportive throughout all of this.

On my side, nothing has really changed. My dad tries, but my mom is completely non-receptive. Talking to her feels like hitting a wall.

One important thing: eloping or going against my family and getting married without them is NOT an option. My dad really wants both parents and my siblings present at the wedding and I want that too.

I feel stuck between my family and the person I love. I know what I want, but I don’t know how to get there without everything blowing up again.

Any literally any guidance will be appreciated. I once went down the rabit hole and promised myself not to because people kept telling me I do have marriage in my chart, and that too intercaste. But pls help me navigate through this. And when can I expect resolution. I will be highly grateful.

TLDR: 4 year relationship, want to marry him. Mom reacted very harshly (cut me off for 6 months) due to caste issues. I struggled mentally during this period. Dad tries but she won’t budge. Can’t elope, want family present. Feeling stuck and looking for advice.

MD- Jupiter
AD-Rahu
22.10.96
Dehradun
12:10Pm