16mo tantrums: tips on how to handle
My baby is 16mo and just started with tantrums for nothing and everything, throwing themselves to the floor, crying histerically, etc, fun times. My husband and I have different ideas on how to handle and we are not sure which or if either is best so really looking for tips.
My approach is if they are clean, fed and safe, I will just let them have their moment, I'll be close but not intervene. Eventually they calm down and we continue with our day. I was alone with baby for 4 days (husband on business trip) and they only had 1 tantrum for 10 minutes.
My husband's approach is to try to pacify them let it be trying to hold them (they try to break free), walking them around, offering distractions, etc. Eventually they will find something ti catch their attention and will move on. He has been back for 2 days now, and baby has had 6 tantrums, they look for my husband and he goes along with his usual way to handle them. Baby doesn't care I am there, they look for their dad. After a while (15 mins or so) we managed to move on with our day. I know he does it out of love but even he is tired of this.
He thinks my method is too harsh on the baby, I think his method is too exhausting and not really helping.
Maybe I am wrong, maybe we are both wrong. Any suggestions?
Extra details: we are first time.parents with zero support from family so not really anyone else to ask for tips 😅