F26 A while back a guy from work kept trying to talk to me I was in a relationship with someone else at that time. I only subtly showed that I’m uninterested and sometimes I would reply and some other times I wouldn’t. Never told him directly that I was in a relationship. Until one day he confronted me as to what’s wrong and if he did something wrong. I asked him to respect my privacy and he stayed away and respected that. We met again recently after almost 2 years and started talking and he asked me about what happened before and I explained that I was in a relationship at that time. So he asked how about now, how do you feel about us talking
I said yes I’m open to getting to know him more
He started pouring his heart out telling me about how he feels about me which felt overwhelming and exaggerated. I got worried it’s love bombing and asked him to stop flirting so we can know each other better he reduced that and I actually felt a deep connection shared thoughts and views and acceptance of things I hold inside me. He keeps getting horny and telling me about it and wanting me to engage in something sexual and I’ve told him many times I don’t want to and it’s too early and that I’m uncomfortable mostly in a nice playful way so I feel like I wasn’t assertive enough because I eventually leaned in and engaged in sexual activity. part of me enjoyed it but I know it wasn’t at my pace as I wanted to wait. Did he push my boundaries? Is he a bad person? Is it my fault I wasn’t assertive enough? Or am I okay with this and nothing wrong? And it’s natural? He is planning on proposing and wants to marry me and is serious about it. I am confused and I really want to understand what is going on