I have this coworker who is insanely hot. Like, the hottest person I’ve ever met. We have worked next to each other for the past seven months, and have talked a lot in that time. I felt really close to him, but would never have pursued something with him because he was married. But then about two months ago he came into work obviously not ok and said he and his wife were getting a divorce. She is in their home country, and decided she didn’t want to reunite with him here, and he can’t go back there, so he felt used and lied to. I felt really terrible for him, but also he got married at 18 (now is 26) and hasn’t been around his wife since he was 23. We have talked about this a lot, because I’m divorced and have gone through a lot.
Anyway, two weeks ago another coworker of ours had a party and I got a little drunk and we hooked up. It was amazing and the hottest thing that I’ve ever experienced. Afterwards we weren’t awkward at all and we said that neither of us was in a good place for a relationship but that we had fun and might do more later. We’ve been flirting a ton and it just feels intense and natural. Except then I checked his instagram today. I don’t use instagram but he is a tattoo artist in his free time and I wanted to see if he posted any new tattoos that he had done. And he did, a practice one. That, per the caption, his wife told him to draw. And she commented on it saying how nice it was and he commented back kissy faces. The wife that he has been talking about divorcing for two months and how betrayed he feels and who he never wanted to talk to again. And I just feel sick and gross. Because I would never have hooked up with him if I thought he was staying with his wife. And she probably has no idea we hooked up. And I don’t know what to do or say, but obviously he’s lying and it makes me so sad. I hadn’t hooked up with anyone since my divorce two years ago and I just thought it could be fun for both of us. I don’t want to be a complication and I feel disgusting.