I'm becoming the 3rd wheel in a three month trio friend group and it's bothering me.
I'm currently friends with this girl and the new guy in my work. I'm really introverted and only get talkative once i felt safe around you because I'm kinda weird and nerdy in a societal perspective .
Me and the new guy clicked when we met. We're both yappers. When he got hired they were the same department with this girl. I've talked with the girl once at this time. And turns out we have many overlapping interests and tastes.
When they were teaming up. I was hesitant to join in first and i just talked to them separately until i joined them at lunch and when going home.
However. I've noticed after a few weeks, that i felt like the odd one out. Like, i know they didnt mean it because they're really trying to make me feel included and i get to have moments with them separately through chat. They've shared some parts of their lives to me.
But whenever we walk at home, i can feel that they're more gravitated towards each other rather than towards me. Their body language says it all and their eye contact went first to them before me. Whenever they talk about something in their lives with each other, I felt like im the least important part of the group. Maybe their sense of humor match more than iam to them. Maybe i should be more assertive. Im starting to question if im the problem. Because i've always been the 2nd option. The guy already has a gf just to add.
Now im starting to get a but anxious, those times that we chatted do they genuinely wanted to chat with me all day, or is it because the other isnt around. Am i not funny?
I would like to hear your thoughts about this.
Tldr; Im the third wheel of a trio friend group with my 2 other friends at work who are in the same department
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