Fiancé and I stopped having premarital sex and are really struggling
A couple months ago my fiancé and I got confirmed into the LCMS church, after starting to get serious about our relationship with God and walk with Christ last year. We’ve been together almost 4 years now, and weren’t believers when we met, or when we moved in together. We had a meeting with our pastor to talk about marrying us at our wedding in October. He asked if we could separate our living situation until then, we can’t. So we decided to stop having premarital sex until the wedding, to honor God. We stopped a little over a month ago, cut out all sexual flirting, all sexual acts, all sexual talk.
We’re having a problem feeling disconnected, both of our big love languages are physical touch. We’ve been having sex our entire relationship up until this point, we personally feel like it’s a big way to connect with each other, and to show attraction and affection. We’ve always been the type to flirt with each other, make promiscuous comments, etc. and we’re both really struggling now with the complete stop of our normal activities. We recognize it’s sinful, we wanted to stop and chose to stop, we’re just struggling pretty badly feeling disconnected. The way we interact with each other now has changed so drastically it doesn’t feel normal or right.
Does anyone have advice for us? Thanks for reading, and God bless!