My bf (41) and myself (F 44) are in a long distance relationship but see each other about once a month and he travels a lot for work in between.
We communicate all the time and I really felt like we were in a great place with future plans.
This week when I was going through the kitchen pantry to look for snacks I saw a bag of candies I had brought with me on my last trip last month. It was open. Inside was a used condom and the condom wrapper I'd say it'd been there for a few weeks. This is the brand I know my bf uses and I checked his wallet and the condom he always keeps in there was missing.
I showed him and he acted totally surprised and then claimed it was a work colleague playing a prank as he'd been away for work for 2 weeks and gotten back the day I arrived.
He then claimed all my stuff was everywhere (I leave some clothes and personal items in his apartment) and why would he bring a girl to see that.
My suspicion is the girl saw my stuff and left the condom where I might find it.
That or my bf is a moron who didn't notice he'd tidied up his trash and put it away in the kitchen cupboard.