u/Fit_Opportunity9177

Hi All,

I have a 4 year old who I know has ADHD. Not diagnosed yet but I see it in him. He's like a clone of myself when I was his age.

Since the toddler stage started it's been great, I'm loving every single day. It's like I'm reliving my childhood again. I understand him, his flaws, behaviors. If it's been a rough day with him I sit and explain to my wife not to worry, it's just ADHD.

Unfortunately in the past few months it's been getting harder and harder, and very dangerous. I have to literally shadow him in public. He's getting older and faster, and will do unexpected things like run away as a joke/adrenaline rush from me in a busy parking lot. Playgrounds are a nightmare for me. He will attempt the most dangerous life threatening stunts where I have to be just waiting to catch him because he will try to slide down from a 12 foot pole where I know he won't manage and fails all the time, but doesn't listen anyways. Walking the sidewalk where there's a busy road is extremely dangerous. He will notice a butterfly and rip his hand out of mine to chase it. I literally got extremely in shape just to keep up with him. I have such anxiety about all of this that I will put my work on hold to step out and join my wife in picking him up from kindergarten, going to the park etc. because I'm the only one that is agile enough for his ADHDness. Grandparents have a ban from us to go anywhere with him because we know they won't even manage to handle any situation that I described. Everyone is too slow to react.

I probably wouldn't even write on here and just keep doing what I do, but today he even outperformed my patience. At the playground he ran up as fast as possible to get to the highest point and try to slide down the pole, ok nothing new for me, but he outsmarted me and pretended to jump moved back and ran to the other side of the obstacle course where I couldn't get to him fast enough. I yelled to my wife to get to him because she was closer, and she half caught him. If she wasn't there he'd probably lose half his teeth and we'd be on the way to the ER... After a talk with him he said ok I misbehaved let's go home. On the way out, with the corner of my eye I noticed he picked up a big sharp edgy rock. My Spidey senses kicked in immediately. He was looking at a parent sitting with his back turned on the bench. I added 2+2 and in the last split second knocked his hand because he wanted to throw it at the person's head.

At home he explained that he did it by accident. I said that wasn't no accident. He replied that he wanted to see what would happen and that he would apologize to the person afterwards.

What to do now? We will be seeking help with a professional now. I want to prevent situations like this because I won't be there one day to stop his actions and he or someone will get hurt.

Hi All,

Since the beginning of my gym journey I worked out strictly alone. I'm introverted so it worked for me and my busy schedule to hit up the gym at the least busy times.

A few months ago one of my wife's cousins approached me at a family gathering and started to show interest in going to the gym. Asking questions and if he could come with me. I pushed back, told him I'm an introvert and love working out alone. I have my routine etc. I can always help answer his questions if needed, maybe go for one or two trips with him to get him started. Suggested he should join in with his brothers because they hit the gym every day.

He insisted that he'd prefer to start with me because his brothers are younger and do all the odd teenager shit at the gym and show little progress.

I agreed. Told him we have to do it my way. I work out very hard and fast. Always to failure. No time for bullshit, I have a family to attend to. He was super happy to hear that and said that if this works for me it should also work for him. Gave him most of my knowledge I gained over the years, and he was taking note of everything.

So we started our journey about 3 or 4 weeks ago. First week was a blast. I started him off on the same stuff I was doing, but having him ease into it. First time in my life I had a spotter for every exercise, helping me hit extreme failure all the time which got me looking forward to this gym partner agreement.

I believe his brothers got into his head now. Guy is trying to give me advice on everything I do, correcting every move I make. If I give him a tip he throws it out the window. It got to the point where he is demanding to change my split. I usually stay out of arguments, but lost it on him and told him the golden rule. I don't listen to smaller people's advice and someone who just started.

My most recent sessions with him started to feel like I'm stuck in Jeff Nippards world lol. He stands and times his rests between sets to an exact 5 minutes, talking about shit I don't have time for. I told him sorry, I'm working out alone tomorrow. I don't have time for 2-3 bullshit sessions and advice from someone who weighs as much as my one leg. Also mentioned to him to call me back when he gets serious and stops treating working out like a NASA mission.

Need advice if this workout partnership can still be saved. It was good having a partner that clicked at the beginning, but now it's just torture. Should I just wait it out and have him come back when he finds out I was more right than his brothers?