As I was transitioning from my late 20s to my 30s a lot in my life felt shaky. I was transitioning jobs, moving back in with family, severely depressed, and having a lot of frustration with trying to navigate the dating scene, coping with heart break, my finances were bad, etc. It's cliche to say it but I was at rock bottom. Numb to life.
The biggest difference came from quitting the modern dating scene. Spending less energy on negativity from dating failures and having more time to work on what matters - learning to love myself. I've been able to cure my depression, reduce my anxiety, climb significantly in the company I work for, got into my dream grad program, and find stability in life. Now my biggest decision is whether I want to continue forsaking dating and enjoying what I have in life or look to settle down and meet someone to start a family. I have a couple years to make up my mind (after I graduate) and I'm going to jellyfish on it until then.
If you're in the boat I used to be in, take this post as a message that says it's okay to step away from the things in life bringing you down. Focus on yourself. Be selfish about your happiness.