u/Financial_Clothes199

Hi, can people who chose UCSB over other UCs explain why or what great opportunities they have had at UCSB. I need to commit Friday, and I was certain on UCLA, but I honestly feel like it's competitive and clubs are too competitive. And honestly I don't care for the prestige or the extra stress. I'm aware all UCSs to a certain extent are hard and academically challenging, but I think UCSB offers more of a balance. For context for UCLA, I got into business economics, while for UCSB, I believe I'm pre-economics/accounting. I'm just worried about not having as many opportunities at UCSB as I would have at UCLA.

Hi, so I recently committed to UCLA because I would be closer to home, but I regret it. So I had gotten a full ride to Berkeley but had decided to stay home by going to UCLA because my parents would help me more. However I regret it because I now just realized what a toxic family I have. For context I lent my dad 200 dollars because my parents are currently separated and my mom just hates my dad. I told him, "Don't tell her because she's going to get mad and then scream and hit me." However I should've known he was a stupid fucking simp and was going to tell her. Why? I don't know because he is a fucking moron. Anyways, so an hour after I committed, she asked me, "Did you let your dad borrow money?" and I said, "Yes." I said the truth because I could just tell that she fucking knew. and there was no point in me lying because that would only result in worse consequences. So then she asked, "How much did you let him borrow?" and I said, "why do you want to know." and she just kept repeating herself, and I kept saying why. After that her mood switches and she starts ignoring me. I kept asking her, "Oh, is the trash ready?" And nothing. Because we live in an apartment, we share a bedroom. So we were doing laundry in the room and the bed drawers, and I'm standing there folding laundry when she pulls out the fucking drawer and then pushes me against this dresser behind us. This is all in Spanish. But basically she said, "Oh, what a fucking bitch you are, with your attitude?" I deadass was genuinely confused because I was just doing my laundry. And then she proceeds with, "Oh, you're going to know what a fucking bitch I am; everyone is going to find out. And everyone is going to regret messing with me. I was able to record part of the conversation because I know later on she will deny it. But now my thing is, should I stay committed to UCLA and cut contact? But the problem is I would owe 1-5k depending on dorming. While I basically gave up my full ride to Berkeley. I have less than 200 dollars saved up, so I would need to find an extra 50 to commit to Berkeley and uncommit from UCLA or maybe consider Davis. I don't care that it's a lower school than UCLA and Cal; I just want to be happy for once. Maybe I am overreacting or I really do need to get away. But if I do go far I would be all alone and have no one. I can't reach out to friends because they wouldn't understand and I have no surrounding family. My brother is an addict and my dad is just a stupid moron who is addicted to anti-depressants, alcohol, and gambling, and my mom is a stupid crazy bitch. So what do I do?