So this is my first time renting a house. I am the most careful person because I am the ultimate people pleaser and I take care of this house with my life. I wipe off every scuff I see and don’t even hang pictures on the wall because I want to keep the walls in pristine condition. Well, one day I noticed a musty smell in the kitchen. Turns out, the dishwasher hose was disconnected and leaking water under the sink for god knows how long. We have cleaning supplies and grocery bags blocking the section so I never noticed it until it was too late. There was already a small bucket underneath before we moved in so I have a feeling the owners knew the lines were faulty. There’s also a preexisting crack on top of the dishwasher which I feel is related. Anyways, I feel like the landlords are going to pin this on us. The drywall damage is extensive. We’ve only been here for 4 months. We’ve never messed with anything under the sink, we barely even open that cabinet! Any advice?? Will this ultimately fall on us??
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I have a 6 year old who has phases (weeks at a time) where she is constantly melting down, on edge, disregulated for most of the day. And then she has phases where she is completely fine for awhile. Well, right now she is in this disregulated phase where she is having daily meltdowns, going on for at least a week. These are huge meltdowns that on the surface start off as a tantrum for not getting her way but then transitions into a meltdown where she is completely not herself and really not making sense. Let me give you an example of what it looks like:
-planned movie night and they couldn’t agree on a movie so I picked. Sibling upset but moved on and able to enjoy the movie. She could not. Immediately starts her tantrum of not getting her way. I try to calm her but hold boundary, then she loses it on the floor screaming. Then she tells me to leave and as soon as I walk away she screams for me back. This goes on for over an hour with her conflicting thoughts that she can’t seem to snap out of. I stay quiet and look for an in to finally offer a hug.
-some meltdowns become so severe that she says she has to pee. I try to get her to the toilet and she fights me and screams no! And then I take her off and the cycle repeats. Can’t snap out of her conflicting thoughts
Aside from these meltdowns, she is social and doesn’t exhibit the classic signs. No delays and hit all milestones on time, goes to regular school and does ok. That’s why no one sees a problem. Her biggest issue is her extreme meltdowns. I’m not sure I conveyed it enough but they are extreme in that she doesn’t calm down for over an hour without help.
Should I push for more support? She has done OT through her Dr and private and parent coaching. No one seems to point to autism. Thoughts?