u/Fickle_Junket1109

Is it appropriate to ask professors why somebody didn't want to train with you?

I'm fairly green (~5 months in), recently got my second stripe. I attend a mix of the women's-only and co-ed classes.

I understand that people are hesitant to train with white belts, often for valid reasons. I don't *think* I'm a dangerous/spazzy white belt since my professor will sometimes pair me up with the brand new preteens who join our women's class when they don't have somebody else their age to be paired with (I have mom vibes/patience). I also get a lot of feedback to be *more* aggressive and to be less concerned about hurting my partners, that they can handle the pressure better than I think.

Recently, I was paired up with a blue belt who I've trained with before, and they asked the professor right in front of me to train with somebody else, so we were shuffled around.

First, I one hundred percent agree that nobody should train with somebody if they don't want to. I'm not offended at the request at all. But I *would* also like to know if there's something I need to address. If this person just wants more of a challenge during class, totally fair. But if I'm doing something that makes them feel unsafe, I would want to know so I can try to improve on that.

Is this something that I should ask the professor about? Or are professors likely to let you know if you need to work on something that's causing people to be uncomfortable working with you?

Feel free to tell me I'm overthinking it or offer any thoughts/feedback.

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u/Fickle_Junket1109 — 6 days ago