Long distance relationship: bipolar girlfriend!!!!
Long distance relationship with very bipolar girlfriend. > Need advice I've been dating this girl and we really click. We don't have much in common but we connect in the ways that matter the most. She has bipolar disorder, depression, heavy anxiety and even anorexia but that's not confirmed. I love her through and through all of it. I'm still relatively new to bipolar dating though. She had a rough episode today. She needed space and I gave her some. She had an issue with her meds and that caused her to become manic and she began to cry, shake, and become uncontrollably upset. I always tried my best to help her but I can't calm her down over text, it just doesn't work. I want to listen to her in person and hug her through it all.
This is especially hard not just because of distance but because I have anxious attachment and I'm always overthinking if she really loves me or not so the episodes reinforce my anxieties. She really loves me, at least I hope so. Today she had an episode aand we couldn't call so it was all over text. She told me she wasn't upset at me and that reassures me I just wanted to help her and I ended up just being a bad therapist when I wasn't supposed to. I want to listen to her, but I don't know how to listen to her without saying stuff like "I understand" and "Im here for you". Those just seemed so low effort and fake. I always try to reply to her with the realest response I can, but sometimes it just doesn't help and makes me look like I don't care. She said she didn't wanna talk anymore which is understandable during an episode. I ALWAYS respect her boundaries.
After about 10 minutes. I apologized to her. "I'm sorry I can't do anything when stuff like this h happens" and she immediately replied coldy with "stop talking to me". This made me freak out. I don't want her to leave me, she's perfect and she probably won't throw away everything over a single episode when I overstepped on her boundaries. I wish I could tell her how sorry I am. It makes me so anxious thinking about her being pissed off at me while she's screaming and breaking down. Any advice?