Men do it on purpose
Currently on medical leave waiting for baby two to make an appearance and have too much Reddit time on my hands.
My husband is cooking meals, doing drop off and pick up, and helping keep the house running. Is he perfect? No, I do all the admin work and he is incredibly messy. But he stepped up.
But for all those women who are drowning because Bob or Nigel can’t be bothered to miss drinks or golf to help - they’re doing it on purpose. They want to sabotage you. This includes inside and outside of the workplace.
If they’re making you feel small, refusing to give you time to relax, refusing to give you space to grow in your career, it is deliberate. They want to make you feel small and they enjoy it.