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I never believed that dreams meant anything. I was the person that rolled my eyes when someone said "I had the strangest dream last night" because honestly, I didn't really care and they didn't mean anything to me. That was the mistake, and I've been living with the proof of that for three years.

It happened on a Tuesday in November. I remember it was Tuesday because I had just gotten back from my least favorite weekly meeting and I was dead on my feet-tired in that soul-aching way that only meetings can really accomplish. I ate leftover pasta standing up in the kitchen, watched twenty minutes of some show or other, and fell asleep on the couch-like an adult.

The dream was uneventful at first. I was in my grandmother's house. The one she lived in until she passed away in 2019. The wallpaper in the hallway, the one with the little blue flowers on it; the smell of her lavender sachets; the creak of that third floorboard in the kitchen. It was all so realistic that it didn't feel like a dream at all. It felt like that Tuesday in November back in 2009 when I was fifteen, had no other plans to be anyplace else, and I was in her living room.

She was sitting in her chair. That worn velvet green chair with the thinnest armrests. She was sitting exactly like I remember her from when she was about 78. Short, with sharp eyes that missed nothing and that certain kind of presence about her that both said she was absolutely unhurried and completely unafraid of anything. She was looking at me like she used to when she needed to make sure that I heard what she was saying.

She said, and I will never forget the specific words because as soon as I got up in the morning I grabbed a pen and wrote them down, she said, "Don't let that man into your home." She didn't specify which man. She didn't say anything else. Just looked right through me, totally calm and certain and repeated the words, "Don't let that man into your home."

The dream then fragmented like they always do, morphing into something totally unrelated to that and I woke up at 2 am in my apartment with a certainty that my grandmother was in the room, an actual physical presence that I could feel and see, although when I sat up and looked around there was nothing there-of course there was nothing there.

And I wrote that down too. I don't know why. I have never written a dream down before.

Four days later, on a Saturday morning, somebody knocked on my apartment door. It was a stranger. He said he was doing electrical inspections for the building and had to come in to check the outlets. He wasn't wearing a uniform or anything and he just looked like an ordinary person with a clipboard. My instinct was to let him in. My hand was already on the doorknob and I was stepping back to let him in when something physically held me back. It wasn't a thought, it was a gut instinct. A pull in my stomach. I told him that I would need to check with the building manager first. He said, "Sure, no problem," and left.

I called the building manager. No electrical inspections were scheduled. No notification was put out. Nobody was supposed to be going door to door that morning.

I don't know who that man was or why he wanted in my apartment. I don't want to know what would have happened if I had let him in. I am not going to speculate about it because if I don't think about it I won't get sick. What I do know is that I haven't taken dreams for granted since then. I don't think I'm psychic, and I don't think my grandmother is looking down from the ether sending me messages, although I would love to think that on some days. I just think that there are things that we know more than we actually realize that we know. Some information in our subconscious takes those signals and when our logical thinking isn't in the way and all the other static in our heads quietens down, then information that we never consciously knew comes to the forefront and if that information can't be interpreted any other way- then that's how it comes to us.

She always said I never listened enough. Perhaps she was right.

So last Tuesday I was standing in front of my fridge at around 6pm feeling utterly defeated. I had a half of a head of cabbage that was really wilting around the edges, 2 slightly soft carrots, 1/2 of an onion from a dish I made 4 days ago, and 1 can of white beans that I’d had sitting in my cupboard for three weeks. That's it for ingredients in my fridge. My pantry had garlic, olive oil, a can of diced tomatoes, salt, pepper, and some Italian seasoning from dollar store purchase a decade ago. That's all.

I had pretty much decided that I'd eat rice and go to bed, but something in my brain said just throw everything in one pot.

I chopped the onion and sautéed it for a few minutes in olive oil in the biggest pot I own on medium heat. I peeled and chopped two carrots and minced three cloves of garlic while it softened. When the onions turned translucent I added the garlic and the smell alone almost made me feel better about the world. Added carrots, roughly chopped cabbage, can of diced tomatoes and all their juices, can of white beans, drained and rinsed, and then filled the pot about 3/4 full with water – maybe 5-6 cups? I added the dried Italian seasoning, plenty of salt, a lot of pepper, and just a tiny bit of dried red pepper flakes from the far depths of my spice rack.

I let the soup simmer with the lid cracked open for about 35-40 minutes, and I’m not lying when I say my entire apartment smelled heavenly. The cabbage softens completely to a silkiness, the beans thicken the broth in the best creamy way possible, and the tomatoes add a richness I was completely unprepared for.

I ate two massive bowls that night and had enough leftover for lunch for the next two days. I probably spent under two dollars on the ingredients for this soup (since some of the vegetables were already paid for by my previous meal).

What really got me though, is that I almost threw away the carrots and cabbage. I thought they were so past their prime. But, once again, heat is magic. It transforms things that you think have no possible use into something incredibly warm and comforting. I sat with that bowl of soup and I felt taken care of, a feeling I don't get enough of at the moment.

If you have cabbage, any type of bean, tomatoes, and some aromatics you've got yourself a full meal. Cabbage is probably one of the greatest vegetables in terms of poverty cooking because it's so cheap, has such a long shelf-life, and only gets better with time. Beans are a similar story – they are satiating without leaving you feeling empty and bloated.

I’m not even a cook, really. I never went to culinary school, and I have a teeny tiny kitchen with a single burner on my stove that always acts up a bit. But with that pot of soup, for an hour at least, I felt like I knew exactly what I was doing, and there’s so much value in that.

. I know he passed away about three years ago now. They were married for 52 years. I always heard people say that when someone lost their spouse of that long, that a part of them died with them, and I know I used to believe that was just some poetic nonsense. I think I know now what they actually meant, though. It was Tuesday, and I was going over to help her out with groceries and just hang around for a while. That's been part of my Tuesday routine since grandpa passed. When I walked in her kitchen she was making that terrible instant coffee that she still refuses to quit, and for a second, before her eyes really focused in on me, she just smiled and said his name. Not mine. His name. It lasted maybe two seconds before she blinked, laughed and said sorry sweetheart, you always walked in like him. Guess we have the same footsteps. I didn't think anything of it at the time. I mean we talked and hung out like normal for the rest of the afternoon, but as I was driving home, I couldn't stop thinking about it. About what it must be like to miss someone so much, and just be so used to that part of your life, that your mind automatically fills the void. Like, she genuinely expected that to be him that walked through that door, after three years. The oddest part is that it didn't even make me feel sad. I felt something, but not sadness. It was more like I had just seen something private, a glimpse into the sheer amount of space he still holds in her day to day life, even though he's not actually there to see it. The second strangest part of this whole thing is that I actually started thinking about my footsteps, too. This is going to sound totally weird, but hear me out. I have literally never once stopped to think about the way that I walk. Nobody has ever commented on it, or made an observation about me having my grandpa's footsteps. Apparently, though, somewhere within my body, I've inherited how he moves from one place to another. This realization feels strangely significant to me, and I don't know how to explain it. I do want to make sure that anyone reading this knows my grandma is as sharp as a tack. This was absolutely not some health related issue or memory thing. It was truly just a spontaneous moment where grief, and love, and muscle memory all collided for half a second in my grandma's kitchen on a Tuesday morning. Has anything like this ever happened to you? With someone you love or lost? These spontaneous little moments can sometimes say a lot more about a person, I think, than anything we consciously do.