29- M - I met this girl through a dating app and felt like I was talking to the most honest person ever. And I was looking for a serious relationship and she said she was too. I’m not into casual - just not my preference but no judgement she said she had a casual which turned to a relationship and a one time mistake, she said she was looking for something serious. After 10 months I got an std scare ( I was Ina serious 3yr long relationship before her and no partners in between). I talked to her and then the stories started coming out, (luckily it was just a scare the tests were negative) but this just opened up a Pandora’s box.
Honestly I know she loves me, but I feel manipulated and betrayed, the kind of risk she had put me in was terrifying. I don’t think she’s not trust worthy but I can’t shake this feeling of being manipulated or being take. Away that choice. That she only had high risk casual mostly
I don’t know I know I’m being judgemental to an extent but I was very honest and open about my preference and what I’m okay with and not. Like she had could have left me if I was not fit. I can’t get off thais feeling of manipulation and betrayal it’s been 4-5 months now.