u/FeonJun

This article from Hoffington Post popped up on my social media feed of an Asian person who thought solving life problem was to become white adjacent.

>"I distanced myself from other Asians, thinking I had found the solution to all of my problems by aligning myself with white people." - Sharon Kwan

>I was ashamed of how we looked to everyone else: uncivilized, loud, smelly with garlic breath, and dumb with our broken English and awkward accents. I hated how enmeshed and closed off my family was and how it seemed like nothing outside of us was allowed in and we weren’t allowed out.

>I used to hate being around other Asians ― in part because like most Korean Americans, I grew up in the church and thought that all Koreans were judgmental Christians, but also because I refused to accept that I was anything like them.

>I hated how Asians traveled together in flocks and how abrasive their languages seemed compared to the calm consistency of English. I used to make fun of other Asians, believing I was nothing like them, and trying to convince myself that I was more American ― or more white ― than them.

>Cathy Park Hong, author of “Minor Feelings: An Asian American Reckoning,” writes, “Racial self-hatred is seeing yourself the way the whites see you, which turns you into your own worst enemy.” I became my own worst enemy from the moment I arrived at LAX at only 3 years old, beginning what now feels like a lifetime of assimilating to whiteness and desperately trying to be seen and accepted.

This article also popped up on my feed at the same time, also from The Hoffington Post. This one is about an Asian person who exclusively dated white until they were cheated on; their partner cheated on them with another Asian person.

>"My 'type' wasn’t just a preference: It was an algorithm shaped by media and colonial history." - Melinda Li

I stand by my argument that western society, particularly North American society, do not see Asian men nor treat Asian men as part of the grander western Asian society with equal footing. Asian Americans identity is promoted from a skewed and one sided source. For every Asian 'self-discovery' articles, opeds, books, poems, movies, TV shows, vlogs or blogs, the UNWARRANTED PSYCHOLOGICAL blunt force torments and physiological trauma blow-backs that hit Asian boys and men at full force were and never will be addressed. That is the reason why I don't give out the obligatory 'awe good for you' response to articles such as those above because I see them a last ditch effort to pander for white sympathy by their authors. On the ONLY positive note, they are, however, definitive proof that Asian Asian men are not being paranoid about how they are being treated by western society.