As the post title says: To be seen is to understand someone fully and still love them despite that.
However, does anyone else desperately want to be "seen" by others but also simultaneously hate it when loved ones say "If only you saw yourself through my eyes...then you might think of yourself differently, etc.."
I do this, and I can't help but feel as if I am contradicting myself or being hypocritical. Because when someone says a version of that line to me, I am technically being "seen," however I don't feel that is the case, my reason being that if someone truly saw me for "me", they wouldn't see me any differently than how I view myself.
And now when I come to think of it, when I say "I want to be seen" it also means, "I want others to see me how I see myself, and tolerate it" to understand me, as I understand myself, and learn to love me, for lack of better words. But would that mean they inherently have to see me differently than I see myself because I don't love everything about myself? And through that logic, is being "seen" impossible?
Or is it possible and a completely separate subjective concept set apart from someone's emotions towards you? What does it mean to "see" a person for who they are? And is that the same as being "seen" fully by someone outside yourself?
I feel as if there is a certain amount of care/love in being observed to your full extent. That if someone sees you differently, they are either ignoring something about you, have not "seen" you well enough, or have a completely different version of you from their perspective. All of which, are not truly being "seen."
In this case, as I stated earlier, to be seen is also to be understood, and to be understood is to have a complete idea of something, as well as a mutual agreement of perception towards something(hence someone seeing me as I see myself).
So, based on all of this, is "being seen" something that can actually be fulfilled? Or am I hypocritical, contradictory, and overthinking? What does "being seen" mean to you? Is it something entirely individual and dependent on a person's needs? And is "seeing" someone synonymous with love?
Tldr; I want to be truly "seen" by someone, and don't know what that looks like haha, is it possible, or am I thinking too deeply?