Hi, 28-year-old female and getting married this coming summer. One of my bridesmaids, 28 female, is also getting married next month at the same location. First I wanna say I really don’t care that she is getting married at the same place I am we have two different families and the same people are not gonna be at the wedding so it really isn’t a big deal. My friends and family all think it is weird the way she went about it and how I found out.
For contacts I got engaged end of November 2024 I asked my friend to be in my wedding that coming January. For my bridesmaid proposals, I included a card with all the wedding details, including the name of the venue. We also had conversations about what the location during the lunch where I asked her to be in the wedding. That April and my friend gets proposed to. I’m super excited for her and I’m happy we get to go through all the craziness of planning a wedding together.
Sidenote about the venue, after you pay the down payment, you get added to a group me chat that includes all the brides that are getting married for 2026. Anytime a new person gets added to the chat their name or email will pop up and say “ blank has joined the group”
Fast forward to the end of last June, I received a message in the group chat that said “-my friends email- has joined the group”. I then went into my contact and confirmed that that was her email. I texted her right after and we have a mini conversation just about the owners and the location itself. I also asked her if she’s ever been to a wedding there before or any other event she said no. The reason why I asked is because I personally have been to three events in the last two years which is why I chose it as my wedding venue. I didn’t say anything specific to her about it nor would I because that’s petty and people can get married wherever they want. I just think it’s weird that she didn’t even ask me about it or anything before her name just popped up in the group chat
Another thing to know is that the venue is located 10 minutes away from where I live and is on the west side of town. The friend lives 40 minutes away on the east side of the town. I’ve already done research and my wedding venue does not pop up on any of the wedding sites or if you search for wedding venues, it’s not even in the top 10.
I just wanna know if I’m crazy to think that’s a little sketch like, why wouldn’t she ask me about it or even shoot the shit about it something like “hey did you like this venue or how’s the food there XYZ” i’m trying to play devils advocate, but everyone I’ve talked to all have said the same thing