Was this assault?
So a few years ago my (23f at the time) ex bf (24m at the time) during sex had choked me while I had given consent in the past he made sure to in the beginning of our relationship show me pressure different like squeezing the sides or not block airways. Now ive come to terms with I’m not into that I think it was a trauma response to something else that happened when I was 16 but that’s another story. Anyway all that to say one night during sex he was on top of me and he was never gentle he would always try to see how deep he could go if he could see himself through my stomach it would leave me with a lot of abdominal pain. One time during sex he choked me but this time it was different I just sucked it up cause I was so scared I used our signal and he didn’t listen he was using me to get his anger out he choked me not to the point of bruising me but enough to where it hurt to swallow for the next few days. I just remembered this memory now in therapy and being 25 and just am really shaken up and confused