High-performing at work, failing at home, soon-to-be father needing advice
I’m a husband, soon-to-be father, and I think I’ve entered work autopilot.
I work in a high-pressure team at my company where shipping fast is everything.
My wife is 7 months pregnant.
On Mother’s Day, I wished my mom… but I didn’t wish my wife.
She told me she feels lonely and unseen, and honestly that hit me hard.
I love her deeply. I’m not cheating, not avoiding home, not partying. I’m just mentally always “on”—work, deadlines, money, responsibility.
I’m scared I’m becoming emotionally unavailable without realizing it.
Men who’ve been through this:
How did you rewire yourself before the baby arrived?
What systems, habits, or mindset shifts actually worked?
tl;dr:
Sole earner. Wife is 7 months pregnant. I wished my mom on Mother’s Day but forgot my pregnant wife, and she told me she feels lonely and unseen. I love her deeply but I think work has pushed me into emotional autopilot. I want to fix this before the baby arrives.