Hi everyone! Black woman (28) relocating to NYC for work and I am *genuinely* at my wit's end with this roommate search. I've reached out to hundreds of people at this point (mostly through Facebook groups) and it's been one of the most demoralizing experiences. I get aired constantly, people ghost after interviews, and it's just... exhausting.
The conversations I do have always go SO well. We end up talking like friends within the first few minutes and I hang up feeling great about it...only to never hear back. It's demoralizing because I knowwww I'd be a great roommate. I'm still close with every single roommate I've ever had, so I'm not just saying that.
A little about me:
- I work in Downtown Brooklyn, so I need a commute under 45 minutes (which is why Crown Heights, Bed-Stuy, and PLG are ideal)
- $1,500/month budget for a room
- I have a $95K offer letter, happy to show proof of income
- I love thrifting, fashion, crime docs + documentaries, and decorating. I make every place I live feel like a real home.
- I'm considerate, funny, and compassionate. Very much a "let's talk it out" not a "let it fester" kind of person.
I'm looking for something long-term. Not really trying to sublet unless there's a potential to renew the lease. I want to actually get settled somewhere, build a little community, and put down some roots. Sublets are too short-term for what I need right now.
Any tips on navigating this process better would also be so appreciated. Is the ghosting after interviews just... normal here? Is there something I should be doing differently?
Thank you in advance 🤍