So I have had fibromyalgia for a long time but finally got it diagnosed about a year and a half ago (yay!) but I’ve had some real struggles trying to communicate how it feels to my partner.
On top of that, I got two more chronic illnesses diagnosed this year as well, so it’s been extra rough.
Despite it all, I still work more than full time (one full time job and one event based job), still do chores around the house and still do all house repairs.
However, there are days I can’t do anything.
Also, my brain fog is bad most days.
My partner gets especially mad at the brain fog. Saying it ‘adds to their mental load’ to have to remember things or remind me of things. I try to remember everything, literally set alarms, write notes, whatever. But sometimes I still forget or am so exhausted when it comes time that I don’t have the energy and put it off.
They are sometimes very understanding, to a degree. Telling me to relax and take it easy. But that usually results in them being in a bad mood or wanting to do something and then I feel guilty not doing it.
What are ways that helped you both cope with your own shortcomings while communicating your needs that actually got through? I’m tired of being called stupid for forgetting things or lazy for not helping.
Any advice is welcome. Thanks.