Is this considered cheating in the lifestyle?
My husband is a hothusband- it turns me on. The only time he can do it is on work trips. We have rules- the main thing is he has to video everything, no repeats, and use protection.
He’s on a work trip currently. We got in a fight right before he left. He told me he had to meet with someone for work that afternoon. We had pretty much been fighting all day. The next morning he revealed that the “work person” was actually a hotwife he slept with without protection. He told me he verified she had recently been tested. This is the second time he hasn’t used protection- the first time I told him I was uncomfortable with it.
We were still fighting about the original argument the rest of the day. I was also kind of upset about him lying about meeting someone from work and hooking up. When I got home from work he made a compromise pertaining to the original argument in my favor and just said “I’ll do this if you stop this madness” (arguing). I responded that I appreciated he was considering my feelings. He told me earlier he had a work dinner so he didn’t read or acknowledge my messages.
I didn’t hear from him all night. I woke up around 2am (I’m really pregnant so have insomnia) and asked why I hadn’t heard from him. He responded and said that he went and got dinner and met a girl at the bar and brought her back to his room to make a video for me. He didn’t use protection. Then come to find out he met this girl on tinder that day, he was chatting with her at the same time we had been fighting, and he spent 5 hours with her! There was no work dinner.
I feel like I can’t trust him now. He’s lied to me twice on this trip and has been trying to say it’s to “surprise me” bc he thinks it will make me happy. I don’t believe anything he says now. Am I an idiot? Is he just blatantly cheating on me?