What has been your experience with Gemini men?
I’m an Aries woman and recently connected with a Gemini man. He’s a little hard to read and honestly kind of boring at times, but I can tell he’s intellectually open and willing to have different kinds of conversations, which I like.
What’s really drawn me to him though is his consistency and patience. I live a very and busy full life, I’m naturally introverted, and I need space to disappear into my own world sometimes. A lot of men take that personally or assume I’m playing games, but he never has.
We met last year and would talk on and off, but I’d eventually ghost multiple times because I hate small talk and he’s not the best texter. And anytime he'd ask me out, I'd agree then cancel (so bad of me I know). He came back around this year, asked me out, and I actually had a really good time. Since then we’ve been talking consistently, even with me disappearing here and there, and he never pressures me or questions it. We just pick back up where we left off.
I’ll admit, I do like being chased a little because persistence shows me someone genuinely likes me and is willing to be patient with me. Most people would’ve disappeared by now, but he’s still here seven months later.
After our third date he invited me over to watch a movie, which is very unlike me that early on, but I felt comfortable enough to go. Nothing happened, but I could definitely tell he wanted to. Once I felt things heating up a little, I told him I wanted to go home. He literally just said, “Okay, I’ll take you home.” No arguing, no guilt tripping, no pressure, no weird energy. He just respected it immediately. I know that sounds like basic bare minimum behavior, but it genuinely stood out to me because I’m used to dealing with coercive, aggressive, manipulative, or disrespectful men. The way he responded almost caught me off guard. I asked him if he was mad at me and he laughed and said course not . He told me that while of course he likes sex, he’s not feening for it and he respects my boundaries. He also said he isn’t looking for something casual and that if that was his intention, I would’ve known that from day one, not now. He said he’s more interested in continuing to date me and build something naturally.
Part of me still finds it slightly contradictory that he invited me to his house after only the third date, but at the same time, his actions that night actually aligned with what he was saying. He also doesn't judge me at all and gives me the space to be me, which is a little new because I've dealt with men who I could tell were projecting onto me or trying to find ways to humble me or neg me someway.
I am also a little awkward and my sense of humor is a little different but he gives me that space to express myself the way I see it and he just like looks at me in admiration and that is totally new because some people think that i'm a little weird or awkward sometimes. And he just tells me that he is listening and that it's OK. He doesn't break eye contact and I can tell that he's extremely confident and I just fucking fold.
I know Gemini men get a lot of fucking flak but this one seems like a green flag and he's making me look like the red flag at this point. Lol.
I told him that I'm prone to disappearing acts and he told me that he respects my space and everything I have going on in my life. For god sakes, I disappeared for a week recently, and he called to check in on me, and told me, "I'm not going anywhere, just so you know." I damn near melted because I like men like this. Now I want to be more consistent and present.
Erggggg..... I don't really know how I feel right now and it doesn't help that I have a Libra moon.