Has anyone left their partner 8 or so months PP?
I don’t know if I am struggling with PP or if I need to leave for myself and the happiness of my baby. I love my partner but things have felt increasingly difficult.
Whilst every relationship has its ups and downs, the breaking points for me are him ignoring me when something I do annoys him, for example he was decorating our kitchen (kindly) and whilst he was busy I touched some things up with the paint. He got really annoyed I didn’t paint in a straight line, told me how he hates wasting his time going backwards and that he’d have to redo it, he then proceeded to make the environment really uncomfortable for me by not talking for a few hours. I feel like in these situations I am walking on egg shells, trying to look after a baby. He says he finds it easier just not to talk.
He’ll get back from work and a few bits might be lying around, he says everywhere is a mess and it’s horrible like
I’ve been sat all day with my feet up. I literally am doing things for others from the moment I wake up until I asleep but he’ll just nip pick - for example tea is produced, he’ll proceed to tell me it’s not quite cooked right - I darent say anything back as I feel like I’ll annoy him again and it’ll go back to being ignored and being uncomfortable.
Whilst there used to be a manageable level for his behaviour, after the baby I feel like has escalated or I am more sensitive to it and I just feel like my confidence in doing basic tasks is being eaten away at and generally I’m waiting for the next thing I haven’t done quite right. He says he doesn’t help with certain things as things are such a mess it’s bad for his mental health.
From observation, his dad shows similar behaviours and I feel he needs to work to break the cycle - I haven’t told him this.
I don’t want my daughter to observe this from her dad and think it’s an appropriate way to treat people, or manage her emotions. I also don’t want her to accept a relationship where she is treated like this as she’s seen her mum go through it and it’s therefore acceptable.
Obviously he has citied mental health, for which he doesn’t get any help for - beyond saying get help and work on yourself or I’m leaving I don’t know where to go.