Both me and my partner suffer from chronic illness
My partner has CVS. He’s currently in an episode 4 days so far and today’s it’s just gotten out of hand. Unfortunately he’s one that can force himself into an episode for attention by chugging liquids to make himself throw up.. I suffer for migraines, PCOS and endometriosis. I’ve been fighting a migraine the past week and a half which he knows. Today has been especially bad for it due to weather change and I have a cyst on my right ovary which is very painful. Despite all this I still make sure he takes his meds for his stomach and daily pills. Take care of him rub his back all that jazz.. what do I get in return.. no help at all. Him whining and throwing up in front of me on purpose. 7 animals to take care of of by myself. A hot water tank drained due to him just sitting in the water letting it run. Every single towel, cloths and hand towel use and needs to be washed. I tried to put my feet in hot water to help with the migraine and he takes over that.
I can’t help but feel extremely defeated and frustrated. I can’t even sleep in my bed while he’s in an episode cause he just wakes me up to tell me his stomach hurts. He will follow me around just gagging and stuff which doesn’t help with my nausea.
I’m not allowed to ask for any help from his family because he doesnt want them to know he’s sick (my family lives a plane ride away) I don’t have friends to talk to here.
When he’s happy and healthy he’s the most loving man I could ever have and can be supportive but when has an episode it’s like I don’t even exist to him.
Am I not understanding it? I can take care of myself but when he’s purposely doing stuff just so I have to do more it gets draining. Idk I’m tired of life lol
To add we’ve been together 5 years and are 24 years old