My girlfriend (25F) and I (27M) have been in a long-distance relationship for two and a half years. A few years before we met, she was diagnosed with an eating disorder. Since we’ve been dating, she has made huge strides in recovery. We try to see each other every 3–4 months, and each time I visit, she has gained more weight since my previous trip. I don’t mind at all she is still amazing to me.
However, during the week of my arrival, she almost seems to shut down and says very negative things about herself. I try to remind her how much I love her for who she is, but she still struggles. She tells me that part of it is my visiting and having to be hugged or touched while feeling unhappy with how she looks. I try to remind her that no matter what she looks like, I will still love her. It just hurts to see her like this, and I feel like part of it is my fault. Any advice on how I can help