You look showered
I've been dealing with a stressful frustrating situation for the past few months. The former ceo I supported for past few years left and new ceo arrived. New ceo needed a chief of staff which he was used to having. I am not a COS and don't aspire to be one. However he hired as a consultant a woman who was laid off VP from his previous company and has self confessed she is known for ruffling feathers.
Initially things were fine until she started scheduling on his calendar without giving me a heads up over impt other meetings. She started copying internal staff on scheduling so they started going to her for calendar management instead of me. Other examples of not partnering well with me.
We had an offsite and normally I would send an email on the evening dinner and shuttle transport and she refused to let me send it out. Instead she sent out the wrong information and then didn't want to send a correction because she said it would point out her mistake! She likes to schedule calls with me right at my starting time in my day when I need to log in and catch up on requests and calendar changes. When I ask her to schedule later in the day, she gets offensive its insane.
But what really frustrates me are her rude comments. When she schedules video calls with just her and I, she has said a few times now: You Iook showered!! Always emphasizing she is working over 50 hours a week like cinderella and hasn't had time to! Who does that but a narcissist??? She always sends several emails on the weekend even on holidays. On Easter, I was peppered with emails from her. She has never been a chief of staff never worked with EA before and it's showing. I have tried communicating on scheduling guidance so we can work better with each other. She says ok and does the same crap. She was a VP who got laid off and offends many people including senior leaders besides myself. I don't know how to tell him the issues I'm having with her.