Another dating post
Hey everyone,
Sorry for the long post in advance, another dating post.
I wanted to share a recent dating experience and ask how others here have handled similar situations.
In the past, I’ve usually told women I was dating about my epilepsy after a few dates, once I felt there was some real connection forming because it’s not something that’s visible in my daily life. I live independently, have a degree from a university, a solid job, go to the gym, etc., so people generally don’t “suspect” anything.
Recently, I met someone on a dating app. We really hit it off quickly, lots of texting for about a week, and there was strong chemistry. The date went really well: we laughed a lot, cooked together at my place, and eventually slept together.
Afterwards, I had left my medication visible, and she saw it before leaving. We texted for the next two days, and I eventually told her I felt a bit uncomfortable that she had seen it unexpectedly. I said I’d prefer if she just asked me directly instead of Googling, as online info can be misleading. But by then she had already looked it up.
She told me she didn’t mind at all, but simultaneously mentioned that having a partner who is very focused on calorie tracking would be a dealbreaker because of her own past with eating issues. I clarified that I just pay attention to protein intake due to the gym. I’m pretty sure she was more unsettled by the epilepsy than she admitted.
So, my questions are:
- Did it affect how you handled things on future dates?
- What helped you handle such a rejection short term?
- Did it change the timing you choose to disclose your epilepsy going forward?
Would really appreciate hearing your experiences.