Falling out with my best friend after my wedding and I don’t know what to do next
I’m feeling really lost/hurt and could use some outside perspective.
My best friend and I have had a falling out since my wedding, and I don’t know how to move forward. I made her one of my bridesmaids because she’s always meant so much to me, but in the lead-up to the wedding, things already felt a bit off. She didn’t come to my bridal shower or the pre-wedding get-together the night before. I was honestly really hurt, but I pushed those feelings aside because I didn’t want anything to take away from what was supposed to be a happy time.
On the day itself, everything was going beautifully… until later in the evening. She got into some kind of spat with another friend of mine, and it ended with her leaving early, clearly upset. I didn’t fully understand what happened in the moment, and honestly, I was caught up in everything going on - it was my wedding night.
The next day, I tried to arrange picking up some things I had left with her, but she made it obvious she didn’t want to see me. So I asked her directly by text if she was upset with me. She told me that I didn’t stand up for her when my other friend was cold toward her, and that in general, in the lead-up to the wedding, I didn’t make her feel important.
I apologized for making her feel that way and reassured her that she is important to me. But I also told her that the way everything played out crossed a line for me. The day after my wedding, when I thought I’d be in that newlywed bubble, I was instead crying and feeling completely drained.
Since then, I’ve kind of just shut down and avoided dealing with it (head in the sand). She did apologize, but it didn’t feel genuine - it came with a “but” and a lot of justification about her own feelings, which made it hard to accept.
Now I know I can’t just keep ignoring this, but I don’t know what to say or how to approach it. Part of me feels hurt and let down, and i resent that it’s clouded my wedding time. Has anyone been through something like this? What would you do?