Situation
I m going to start by saying that i will be jumped on, judged and so on for what i am about to write.
To be clear, i don t need any advice but i would like to see if sonebody else has gone through this and how to navigate the situation.
She has a boyfriend and i have a wife. This is why i will be jumped on and judged.
I (Aries man, 17th of April) have a Libra (15 October) coworker. She began working for the same company around two years ago. I was already there since 2019. Because of the nature of our work (me as an aircraft technician and her as a tool store clerk) we always have to interact professionally. Sometimes, our shifts don t sync (i could say that we do have 30 minutes of overlap if the shifts are opposite).
The story began almost two years ago. I was in the tool store (14th of October) to get some tools and she disclosed the fact that tomorrow, the 15th is her birthday. Randomly, we weren t even chatting directly as i was being served by another coleague of hers.
Following day, i remembered her birthday and bought a cupcake as a small gift. Friendly, coworker style, no strings attached. Gave it to her and she erupted in tears… 16th of October, she gave me her phone number “to chat”.
Fast forward in time, our interactions became high intensity interactions. Like in “whole body vibrating for both of us” kind of intensity. Restless around eachother. Touches, compliments, teasing, banter. One month ago, she invited me to this event. She even purchased MY ticket one week in advance… Essentially claiming my Saturday time. I had to work on that particular Saturday. The whole week she has been anxious because we didn t know if i could make it to the event. I made it after all and instead of calling her or texting her that i will be there, i went on with a full “hunter” mode. I searched, i found her and i went directly and powerfully sniffing her neck and exclaimed a satisfied “aaaaaahhhhhh”. 😅 like “Found ya!”. That s just me, plain and simple Aries “go for it” energy. She turned around, big wide open eyes, exclaiming “you came!?” And hugged me. After this, silence, avoiding, but throwing crumbs here and there, from time to time, during the whole event.
Went back home, she thanked me for showing up and i sadi that i wouldn t have missed it for anything.
We were not alone as two other coleagues of ours were present.
Before this we used to text regularly. Not daily but sufficient. After the event, texting stopped. Both sides, but when i engage she always replies almost instantly. While at work, there is no change in the high intensity interactions. I am also not a huge fan of texting, i prefer live interactions with everybody. The regular “today high intensity, tomorrow nuclear explosion”.
We don t have absolutely anything in common, i am an absolute stranger in her country. But despite all of this, there is this natural pull, which doesn t give a damn about us not having anything in common. It s not a well thought game, pure raw attraction.