I’m 36, 6’7, 200lbs, fit, hot (this is what they told.me even tho my self estimate is behind the ground).
I’m struggling a lot with modern dating and I want honest perspectives on what I might be missing.
My experience so far: very few sexual relationships (2 partners),
A pattern I keep hearing from women is that I don’t give off a “fun”, “light”, or “casual / hookup” vibe. Instead, I come across as too serious, intense, or not the type for something spontaneous or playful.
I do everything on paper correctly: I take care of myself (ppl told me I look 25), I am a good guy, socially active, have a lot of interest, I am a professor at university.
I consistently feel like I don’t generate desire in women I find attractive.
From my perspective, dating feels extremely imbalanced today: women seem to have much more choice and validation, while as a man I feel like I’m constantly initiating, being evaluated, and then dropped quickly. It’s starting to affect my mental health and how I see myself.
I am thinking about suicide a lot.