My ex-boyfriend 26 M cheated on me 26 F with someone who was also our mutual friend and now they’re married.
My ex-boyfriend cheated on me with someone who was also our mutual friend m and now they’re married.
We were together on and off for almost 6 years. Looking back now, there were red flags from the beginning. He cheated on me multiple times throughout the relationship, and every single time I forgave him and went back to him. I’m honestly not proud to admit that now, and I know it was stupid of me, but I genuinely loved him and kept hoping things would eventually change.
We were in a long-distance relationship living in completely different countries with different time zones, so most of the time I had no idea what he was doing behind my back. Somehow, though, I would always end up finding out eventually either someone would tell me something, I’d hear rumors, or he’d admit to it later. A lot of the time his excuse would be, “We were on a break,” or “We weren’t together properly at that moment,” so according to him it somehow didn’t count. Meanwhile, to me, it still felt like betrayal because we always ended up getting back together and continuing the relationship.
At one point, while I was busy working and trying to make our relationship work despite the distance and time difference, he got emotionally involved with one of his school friends someone who was also my friend or at least a mutual friend. We weren’t best friends, but we had known each other for years and were always friendly.
What hurts the most is that she used to criticize cheating and even complain about him sometimes, saying he was a cheater. Meanwhile, behind my back, he was confessing feelings to her.
When I first found out, I only knew he liked her. Later I found out the feelings were mutual, they started dating, and not long after that, they got married.
I think what still hurts me isn’t even just the cheating anymore. It’s the fact that I gave someone so much love, loyalty, patience, and endless chances for years, and none of it was enough for him to value me properly. Yet he ended up settling down with the very person he cheated on me with. And the irony of someone who used to speak so strongly against cheating ending up marrying someone who cheated with her honestly still messes with my head.
TL;dr: 6-year long distance on-and-off relationship, ex cheated multiple times, I kept forgiving him, he later got involved with a mutual friend and now they are married, and I’m still trying to process it all.