u/Expensive_Energy_17

Hi everyone, looking for some perspectives here. I am 40f married with 3 kids. We were in the US for 5-6 years, faced H1 issues and moved to Canada in 2017. We got PR and are now citizens. Both of us are in IT, doing modestly fine. I don't know if this is a midlife crisis, but the last few years, I've been wanting to go back. The usual reasons - aged parents, loneliness, weather, kids culture and upbringing etc. But I also have other reasons such as I've become quite religious and wanting to visit a lot of temples, wanting to learn classical music etc. I am not very comfortable driving, so I am unable to just go out on my own if I wanted to. We are also an interreligious couple, so I don't want to keep bugging my husband if I wanted to go. We've been ok as an interfaith couple, husband has no problem with what I do. Both parents have visited us many times and they've been quite decent about it too. It could also be that no one from their circle have seen how we live.

I don't see us retiring here or being happy here. My oldest is 9 so I feel this is the best time to move. I worry about the religion aspect and our career. I really want to move and am ready to move tomorrow if we could. My husband's on the fence. I really feel stuck here. I am just ranting so I'll stop. Looking for some perspectives here.

Edit: I guess I am not seeing any value living here when everything we like is back home. We came in our 20s when we were young and excited to be in a foreign country, but that's all gone now. I don't even have time to read a book here...

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u/Expensive_Energy_17 — 7 days ago