u/Expensive-Collar1774

hii. so around November I started self harming quite frequently when at uni and now my scars are still healing and are really noticeable. im going on holiday in July with my family to a warm country where I dont think i will be able to cover up so I need to explain my scars to them. i havent told my family about my recent sh but when i was 13 i was harming myself and they found out then. they were really upset (not at me, but asking me why id do something like this) and its really making me so nervous to tell them. we dont speak about that time when I was 13 at all :/

my parents are probably my best friends in life lol and ive felt so so guilty hiding this from them, my mum is always saying if anything is wrong then speak to her etc etc which makes me feel so awful that I didnt. i feel like its inevitable that they will be upset but i just really need some tips on telling them. I dont want my relationship to change with them like im literally crying so hard writing this LOL. I don’t want them to judge my scars or think any less of me. I think im going to write some things down on paper so I dont forget what I want to say. but i keep backing out and i’m scared I will leave it too long. honestly I dont even think im looking for any kind of specific advice im just really struggling with this situation and need some encouragement haha

hello. i tried to get help a few months ago from my gp and found it really unhelpful. i have a tendency to downplay things which doesnt help but i mentioned that id been self harming but stopped doing it a few weeks ago and they kind of just brushed it off and said that was good. they told me i could self refer for talking therapy but i was stupid and admittedly didnt end up doing that.

im self harming semi frequently again but i don’t really know what to do. there’s a bit of a break in between when i self harm, so i dont know if it counts as actively self harming and i dont really know how to explain it. i am trying to stop, im just not always successful at it so idk if the fact that im trying to stop would make me sound like ive got it all sorted. im not really in crisis and im rarely actually upset when i do it so im having trouble actually explaining it, it feels like im very regular apart from the self harm (obviously not the case lol but its making it really hard to tell somebody). they asked me why i do it and i genuinely have no idea, i feel like im just a blank individual when they speak to me. it makes me feel really silly when they have to contact you asap because you’re a risk to yourself

sorry i have no idea if any of this made sense lol but i just really have trouble explaining myself. i just really want to know how i can explain myself better when i dont know any of the answers. it feels like they expect me to understand everything about myself its making it hard to speak about it. would it be worth speaking to the talking therapy service and would this situation sound like something they can help with? so sorry if this sounds like a silly question i just have no experience with them lol!

hi. i really struggle just sitting down and doing uni work and i was wondering if anyone had any tips that had worked for them. ive cut down on social media usage as i used to waste a lot of time on Instagram etc but honestly now i just daydream and zone out even when its unintentional 😭 i feel like my body does anything to avoid it. I procrastinate a lot and im def someone that focuses best under pressure but it always means my uni work gets affected so i really want to stop doing so. does anyone have any advice?