u/Exotic_Jaguar_3157

I paid off my last debt last month after three years of grinding, every extra dollar going toward the balance and watching that number slowly come down until it hit zero. I sat in my car and cried for a good ten minutes because I couldn't believe I'd pulled it off.
I thought the hard part was behind me.
I'd been trying to get my partner to have real money conversations with me for the past three years and he always had a reason to put it off, it was always we'll figure it out later.
The week I hit zero he suddenly had all the answers about our financial future.
I'm not trying to assume the worst about someone I love but the timing has been sitting with me ever since. He went from someone who ran from every money conversation to someone who had a whole plan about combining finances the moment I had something worth combining.
I can't shake it and I don't know how to bring it up without it turning into a fight about whether I trust him. I worked really hard to get here and I'm not sure I'm ready to make it OURS before I've even had a chance to make it feel like mine.