TL;DR: I still have 4 more years left before I graduate. I get along fine with my roommate on most days, but he is awful to live with. Despite his apology after a confrontation I don't see myself living here any longer, I'm just way to tired after all this shit, but I don't know what to do from now on. Does anybody have any advice on what to do?
I (20M) have been living with one roommate in shared apartment for almost one year and a half now. I needed a place at the time because my hometown was too far for my studies. At first, things went well. But as time went on, I have found myself increasingly frustrated, stressed and resentful. I have been stressed to point where I felt nauseaus.
My roommate (28M) is currently unemployed and has been unemployed for almost a year now, with still no intent to find a job or finish a study anytime soon. He is spending most his time gaming, rarely leaving the appartment. He's also clincally diagnosed with depression and anxiety (something that I discovered later when living with him). As a result, he's quick to anger and often short of patience, and while I try to be mindful and understanding of this, it still has made living with him rather difficult.
For example, he once threw out all the forks, knives and spoons we had because "he was angry" and because "they were ugly". Those forks and knifes were bought with our shared savings account for the house (which is meant for common household items like toiletpaper, cleaning products, etc.). He threw this all out before he got any new ones, so we had to struggle just to eat that day. When he did buy new ones, he bought them with our shared funds without my permission.
Apparently he also had big fight with the previous tenants and his previous roommate left only after a couple months without saying a word. He is very loud and regulary plays music in the living room and walks around the appartment in his underwear. I have a whole list of other examples, but I'm afraid this post will be too lengthy then.
The thing is, is that he can be nice on days. I admit that I'm personally very non-confrontational, too much so. He did say that if anything bothers me, that I should tell him. But with how he has been behaving I don't think I can. I once told him that I no longer wanted to play a video game we had been playing together and he was visibly upset and on the verge of tears.
Well today I finally have confronted him and we talked for almost a hour straight. We will be no longer cooking together (mainly me cooking for him really) and the common funds account will probably be scrapped. He did apologize for making me feel this way and any inconvenience he caused. I agree that I should have done this way sooner. He was also crying and begging me to not kick him out, because it's the only thing he has left and he considers this his home. (The landlord is someone I know on a personal level, it's how I got the appartement in the first place).
I don't know if I should give him the chance to fix things, move out or just trying to have him kicked out. He gets very emotional at the thought of being kicked out tho and keeps asking me about it, saying it is his anxiety. I'm tired of all of this.
Sorry if this post is way to long. I usually never post on reddit, but I'm exhausted of my roommate and need some advice on what I should from know on.
EDIT: I mentioned a shared savings account, but it's more of a join account for products we both use. I'm no longer happy with this arrangement tho, especially with how things have been going and am going trying to push to dissolve this. If not, an eviction seems more and more likely