u/Excellent_Water3480

I’m 18mo postpartum, I really wanted to be one of those moms who just snapped back. Well it’s been almost two years and I haven’t. I’ve been clinging onto my pre baby clothes that are taking over my closet now that I’m buying clothes that truly fit me. Not just wearing the same three pairs of sweat pants I can still squeeze into.

None of jeans from them fit (I’m nearly twice my size as before) all my cute little crop tops are too tight or show off my stretch marks that I prefer to remain hidden now.

I can’t find myself to get ride of them, and keep clinging onto “someday” loosing the weight.

When did you finally get rid of it all? Did you regret it or do anything special to remember your favorite “pre-baby” clothing items?

At the time of filling out my BDD forms I had chosen not to mention my SA a NCO did to me at my first unit or having any military sexual trauma. As it is with most cases there was alcohol involved and I did a lot of self blaming. I never reported it to the police, or my chain of command or a SA rep. So the only “evidence” I have is my word. As I’ve been working through my other mental health issues though I’ve realized it is a key factor and trigger in the claims I am making (including anxiety and PTSD).

I am still in step 3. Do I need to submit a new BDD form saying I would like to claim MST?

Should I just fill out the evidence form for a traumatic event as evidence?

I’m just wondering how to navigate this. I am still within my 180-90days out from ETS window, so luckily I have that going for me.

At the time of filling out my BDD forms I had chosen not to mention my SA a NCO did to me at my first unit or having any military sexual trauma. As it is with most cases there was alcohol involved and I did a lot of self blaming. I never reported it to the police, or my chain of command or a SA rep. So the only “evidence” I have is my word. As I’ve been working through my other mental health issues though I’ve realized it is a key factor and trigger in the claims I am making (including anxiety and PTSD).

I am still in step 3. Do I need to submit a new BDD form saying I would like to claim MST?

Should I just add a traumatic event form to my evidence?

I’m just wondering how to navigate this. I am still within my 180-90days out from ETS window, so luckily I have that going for me.

For those who may come across this I just finished one of my first C&P exams yesterday. It actually went very quickly, I was worried about the Dr not believing me when I was describing my pain/ issues. Luckily I did not experience that, what I did experience was the Doctor trying to get me in and out quickly as possible. They asked me where it hurts, I told them then they measured my range of motion and said ok we’re done I’ll walk you out to the lobby now. There was no conversation about how it affected my life, or how I’m now limited from doing daily tasks etc. I wrote everything down on the intake forms in the waiting room and he said ok I’ll send this info to the VA.

All this to say, make sure you’re being detailed on your intake forms and make sure you advocate for yourself if it affects your ability to do anything when they ask if you have pain, It seems they are more concerned about getting you in and out fast, then “not believing” your pain or issues.