Hello! I'm recently widowed. My husband died back in February. We have small kids. I'm so overwhelmed by the house! We have way too much stuff. I try to get the kids to help, but I think they're also overwhelmed by how much we have to manage. One of my kids is a feral tornado, which doesn't leave me much time or space to do anything because he's right behind me undoing what I just did. I feel like I'm suffocating under all the piles of stuff everywhere.
Then there's all my late husband's stuff - a garage half full of tools and various stuff that I'll probably never use, clothes, books, memorabilia, etc. I know letting go of his stuff doesn't let go of him. I'm somewhat itching to clear out some space so I can breathe. I don't want to get rid of too much right now because what if my kids want something of their dad's?
I'm not even sure where to start, honestly. I've tried various decluttering methods in the past, but haven't ever been able to stick with them long enough to make a difference (possible ADHD?). Any effort I make feels like a shell game where I'm just moving piles of crap from one spot to another. Please advise gently.