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one of my best friends and i love to go clubbing together, i’m a guy and she’s a girl. she is very, very, very gay, and also not my type at all. beautiful woman in her own sense, but i just don’t find her sexually compatible, which is perfect considering our relationship is entirely platonic, we consider each other siblings, changing around one another, etc. i think she also has bad social anxiety, and definitely some kind of anger issue, as she has expressed irritation over perceived slights by others behavior that was probably unintentional.
anyway, whenever we go out, she clings to me constantly. when dancing, she’s always facing me, close enough that we keep accidentally knocking into each other, and when i try to back up to create more space she moves forward, always claiming that she doesn’t have any more room. she’s got hip problems, so will occasionally have to take a breather, and expects me to leave with her, if the spot we’re dancing in gets crowded, she gets irritated and wants to leave that area, and expects me to leave that spot with her despite the fact that i’m comfortable just where i am. i’ve asked in the past if she wants to split up for a bit, knowing we’ll both find each other in the small space, but she always says no.
i also suffer from anxiety, but have been able to meet a few friends going out and try to introduce them to her, but she clams up (completely understandably) and i do the talking, leading to her later getting frustrated that everyone knows me but not really her.
funny enough, she often talks about us each meeting someone while we get ready, but that’s next to impossible when we are always dancing like a fucking couple!
is there a way i can bring this up next time we’re planning go out so she doesn’t take it as me writing her off as clingy, or wanting to ditch her? i absolutely do NOT want to do that, i don’t feel that way at all and love her to DEATH. but it would be nice to not feel constantly attached to someone when i’m also trying to explore new spaces and step outside my comfort zone.