Honestly most days I regret taking ancestry dna last year, it’s like the gift that keeps on giving… dna will the uncover families long buried secrets, remove people you thought were relatives & add unknown relatives & I even found out close relative through marriage I’ve known my whole life & friend of 20+yrs are my relatives. I’m mean we’re from different parts of uk, so they wasn’t expected.
And more 2nd family’s, hidden wives & even a fake death & run aways.
All I wanted was to know was more about my foreign paternal dna after 26 years of knowing the ‘truth’ turns out it wasn’t him & I’m fully English.
Still don’t know who my dad is but I suspect it either my siblings dead dad or one of his close relatives. They’ve never had contact with him or his family, unbelievably I did have regular contact with their dad until I was 16 but chose to break the toxic abusive cycle and go no contact when I became a mum myself And had 12yrs of Therapy to get over severe childhood trauma I had. The Other supposed bio dad was just a toxic when I met him, so was cut of to. I think my gut knew, I always trust my instincts. Hes also now dead.
So I cant ask anyone else for answers, im literally working everything out myself from dna & records.
Anyway point of this post a whole year after those bomb shells hit me is…
my paternal 1st cousin and my shared dna match’s but the don’t add up at all. Like we have really different cm to other people.
His my highest paternal match, originally said ( half uncle or 1st cousin)
I know he is my potential dad’s nephew from his one of his brothers.
The Uncle & cousin have same name but I worked out it’s the cousin due to age on profile. He’s not active but I’ve confirmed his the younger one via info.
My other relatives common matches from my mums side a pretty consistent.
Now I’m genuinely wondering if my “dad” & his brother are unknowingly brother/cousins. I know his uncle lived with his parents for a some time as the brothers were close.
Or
Ive also considered if another member of his known or even unknown relatives (lots were adopted) is actually my bio dad instead.
I can’t confirm as no closer paternal relatives are on dna websites or now dead.
Or is there another hopefully less dramatic reason that can explain it?