How do you deal with them always being upset with you?
We all know that caretaking of LOs with dementia is about as tough as it gets. So many things are so difficult. For me currently, it's trying to take care of someone who is always mad at me, that is the hardest challenge.
My mom forgets when she sees me and my brother. She always thinks it's been weeks or months, when often its just been days. So she thinks we're bad kids. She always says "my neighbors don't even realize I have kids! I'm 79 years old, I need help!" Meanwhile my brother was there the night before to take her grocery shopping but she refused to go because it was too late. It was 5:30pm.
She is just so miserable to us all the time. Its so hard to convince myself to call/see/text her because she's just going to say terrible things to me about her state in life and how much she thinks I suck.
She's obviously early stage. She lives independently in a 55+ development. No longer driving or paying her bills but she can still shower, cook easy stuff, etc. I just don't know how I'm going to deal with this for the next 10+ years. She's absolutely miserable in life.